Offbeat Bride Advice

So I'm catching up on a couple days of blogs & I come upon this from Offbeat Bride. It starts with the Best of Craigslist rant on weddings which most of us are familiar with & which I find freakin' hysterical. She then goes on to say it's easy to talk about what you don't want & much harder to pinpoint what you do what.

But you know what's much harder? Creating what you want. It's so easy to slam other people for their over-the-top this, their tasteless that, their tacky whatever. It's much harder to stare down the muzzle of your own wedding (and your own life!) and determine what you actually want from it.

Fuck

I have to be honest, I like bitching about all the things that drive me crazy. I honestly hate planning my wedding. I know but it's true. I hate it. According to every wedding website, I'm doing nothing right, I'm about a gazillion steps behind on the checklists & I "should" be enjoying picking out the perfect centerpieces & figuring out how to decorate our venue like "us". I don't. I hate it. I am a rare kind of anti-bride. Complaining, venting, ranting about all this is what keeps me sane & now this one comes along & makes me think perhaps I should change my focus. Crap

So here's what I've decided in my few moments of introspection - she makes a very valid point & I do need to put a little more energy into what we want vs. what we don't want. That being said, the anti-bride in me will still be showing up fairly regularly. I can't help it. I like it. I amuse myself & it makes me feel better. Not better about myself. I mean, I don't think what I want is better than what someone else wants for their wedding. Not the case, none of us are better, just different. It just makes me feel better to vent about the stuff I find insane or inane....whatever.